Recently I was reading The Nester's Blog post and she was introducing herself.
The Nester has been blogging for Five years but has been blogging 'anonymously' up until now. A little earlier I was reading Ros Russel's
Sew Delicious blog post where she explains her thoughts on blogging.
Each of these posts come hot on the heels of my own thinking of late.
Ros likes to read a blog and get to know the author, I agree totally. She discussed privacy and how tricky it can be and sensitively raised the matter of how impersonal it feels when bloggers choose not to reveal anything about themselves and that often she tends to skip such blogs, again I agree. Ros commented that she chose to use her real name and her children's names instead of pet names or initials, but that she mostly sticks to her experiences with sewing. Although Ros discussed many blogging related matters, many of those who commented wanted to discuss privacy and the use or not of names and identity when blogging.
I blog using my nickname, Dee. It is what most people call me and works for me. On my blog, I used to call my daughters by teen 1,2 and 3, that got complicated when the eldest was no longer a teenage. Then I started using their nicknames and/or initials. If you have noticed lately I have been referring to my girls more by names/nick names.
In the past I have been very careful about protecting my identity and privacy, and that's not just on my blog; checking the phone before I answer it every time and wondering when the next stalking event would occur. Since the sudden death of my father late last year I have been gradually exploring my growing freedom. It feels strange after so long of being cautious and looking over my shoulder. As part of this I had been wondering about blogging and identity of myself and my family. It felt weird at first but is slowly growing and I am feeling ok about using my name more and loosening identity protocols.
A few months ago if you googled my name, you wouldn't find me - at all. Believe me, I checked regularly. I could not be found on a facebook search either. Now I can be found on FB and a google search will reveal me four times on the first page alone. I exist now. (well I did exist previously; I just didn't have an online profile.)
I will still use my nickname. There are several reasons -
1. I like it. Dee, it suits me and is happy.
2. No one mis-spells it - there are multiple ways to spell my name and it is rare for someone to spell my name correctly.
3. No one mis-pronounces it - this is a pet peeve of mine.
4. It spares me lengthy explanations about my name and it origins and meaning. (terrible meaning anyway)
All my life people have commented on my name. "It's so unusual." "Never heard of that name." "Where is it from?" "what does it mean?" etc
The above reasons are why The Nester didn't use her name: Myquillan. When I read her article, not only did I read her name and pronounce it corruptly, I laughed so hard through most of it as I related to much of what she said. I am funny about name pronunciations and work very hard at saying a name correctly - often to the surprise of the owner who may comment that it is rare for his or her name to be pronounced properly. Sadly it doesn't guarantee that I will remember said name at a later date.
My name is Deidre.
Almost NO ONE pronounces it right, especially anyone who THINKS they know how to pronounce my name. I bet most folks who read that would have said "Dear-Dree" or "De-ahr-Dree" or "Dear-dry" or "Dear-Dra" or "Die-Dree" or... To save myself the trouble and to spare my back teeth, I usually just use the shortened version and at least that way the first part of my name is pronounced correctly; Dee.
There are a few women (all older than me) named "Deirdre" which really is pronounced "Dear-dree". (And BBC sitcoms have done me no favours either.) There are even people who just assume that I don't know how to pronounce my own name and they are going to correct me - for reals!!
Oh and if I had a dollar for every time someone pointed out "i before e except after c"...
Folks usually look a bit funny when I remind them of the other primary school rhyme, "when two vowels go walking, the first one does the talking". Most folks frown, think about it for a bit and mumble something along the lines of, "I had forgotten that one."
I have tried to help people to pronounce my name correctly by saying, "I am not dear and neither is my name". I must be too cryptic 'cause most people don't seem to get it and keep calling me de-ahr-dree. (frowny face)
For some reason my mum named me Dee-dree and it is spelled Dei-dre which is waaaaay too close to the better known Deir-dre. I thought of changing the spelling of my name to Deedree but it looks funny... or even Deedre but I would stll be questioned about how come there is a double ee in the first part and only a single one in the second part...
Really it's much easier all round if you just call me Dee. ;-)
and just because I have done an entire picture-free post, I will reward you with some piccys.
My current favourite photo of Theo-dorable
smiling up at his daddy at 5 weeks